In today’s Dear Abby, a woman with terminal cancer tries to prepare her husband for life after she’s gone, but fears he’s avoiding the conversation altogether.

My husband will be 70 next month. He is in good physical shape but has taken up smoking marijuana every day. He says he is addicted. I have told him how much I hate that he uses dope. He quits for a while and then goes back to it.

I have briefed our daughter on where the important paperwork and legal documents are, but I want him to take the lead.